Here's another article from Annetta Wilson which I received yesterday. Read it! You might learn something ...
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I listened to a phone interview recently with author and executive coach, Dr. Marshall Goldsmith. He said something startling. He said he is totally detached from whether his clients take his advice.
Instead, he asks if they want to have happier and more meaningful lives. Then he lets them choose what they want to get better at doing.
That’s not what most of us expected to hear from a man who has worked with over 120 major corporate CEOs, written 27 books and teaches at Dartmouth.
We expected to hear that Goldsmith and his clients were extremely driven goal-setters motivated by climbing the proverbial ladder higher and higher.
We didn’t expect to hear that the primary goals his clients seek are ‘happiness’ and ‘meaning’.
It was encouraging to me that their titles and the number of people reporting to them were secondary to knowing they were making a difference.
At one point, Goldsmith asked us to close our eyes and picture being on our death bed at age 95. He wanted us to imagine our 95-year-old self giving life-changing advice to the person we are today.
Whatever advice we gave to ourselves in this imaginary scenario, he encouraged us to take it NOW!
We spend a lot of time waiting ‘until’. We postpone happiness until we have enough money, the perfect relationship, the kids leave, the house is paid off, the right job shows up…etc. Somewhere in the middle of all that, we forget that we have choices in the present moment.
It’s an interesting paradox that the happiness we seek doesn’t usually show up until we decide to be happy where we are right now.
You must first know and honor where YOU are before you can communicate with anyone else with authenticity. What do you want from that interaction? Secondly, you must take into account how it benefits the other person.
Most people are more willing to listen when there’s something in it for them. When you come from a place of ‘service’ and ‘giving’, everybody wins.
From that place, the odds go up that your communication is more heartfelt, honest, has greater impact and engenders trust. It also gains you respect and the opportunity to make a bigger difference.
Perfecting your communication skills has a direct impact on what you achieve in life and what you can inspire others to achieve. You may discover that people are happy to follow your lead.
About the Author
Annetta Wilson is a business strategist specializing in communication skills, presentation skills and media training. She has coached on-air journalists at CNN and coached for Walt Disney World’s Ambassador Program. Annetta is a Certified Mastery Coach and a Certified Trainer. She is an award-winning journalist with more than 30 years experience in the broadcast industry. Visit her Web site for your free report on three communication mistakes that may be costing you business and relationships. www.YourCoachForSuccess.com
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